It’s not success that makes you fulfilled.
It’s having tried.
Here’s a scenario proving my point:
You approach a girl, have a little conversation with her and then ask her for her email address. She declines to give it to you.
You didn’t succeed, right?
But you experience fulfillment because you tried.
There’s no nagging feeling where you wonder what the outcome would have been had you approached her because you did and you feel damn good that you did.
The opposite of the above scenario is allowing your fear dictate your behavior which places you in a self-induced prison where you’re not only guaranteed failure but you’re also guaranteed that you’ll never experience the sweetest taste in the world which is fulfillment. And I’m unsure whether the former or the latter is worse, frankly.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” ~Wayne Gretzky
This concept can be applied to many more things:
Opting not to ask for a raise.
Opting not to ask someone to hang out.
Opting not to try something new like martial arts.
Sure, you could “fail” at all of the above.
But you and I both know that having tried any of the above and “failed” will make you feel good down to the bone.
Opting not to do them, out of fear of failure, will make you feel deep dissatisfaction.
Take my advice and give it a shot.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Bamboo Forest is a professional email life coach and the founder of Tick Tock Timer