There are many things we’d never do to others, but are more than willing to do to ourselves.
- If your roommates had a big day tomorrow, would you blast your music knowing it would keep them up?
- If your friend was trying to lose weight, would you put a big platter of donuts in front of him while he’s working?
- If you saw someone writing a term paper, would you sneak up behind them and caress their cheek with a feather every couple minutes to distract them from getting work done?
Unless you’re evil, you wouldn’t do any of the above.
We tend to be considerate to others, but sometimes we’re absolutely evil to our own sense of well being.
Isn’t that messed up?
Ways we can be cruel to ourselves
- if you had a big report to do, you might procrastinate, wait till the last minute, and as a result give yourself tremendous suffering by pulling an all nighter and finishing with a job that’s below your ability.
- You might choose to stay up late to watch a movie even though you know you need your sleep for the big day tomorrow.
- Knowing how important it is to you to lose weight, you may still decide to indulge in fattening foods not on your diet.
When we make decisions that compromise the quality of our lives, we have to be honest with ourselves and really ask the question: do we even love ourselves?
Further, what are the signs of someone who loves someone else?
Think about the above question and then begin to apply the answer to yourself.
Being kind and considerate to others is of course an obligation.
So why wouldn’t we give that same honor and respect to ourselves?
Think about it.
Bamboo Forest is an Email Life Coach, helping people work on something in their life over the course of a month through email. He’s also the founder of Tick Tock Timer.